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**Giraffe** · 08-01-2011, 11:11am

So, just before you read to far this is a little deep and meaningful so if your not interested, pull out now, EJECT! EJECT!

back to the point.

Statement: ' LOVE IS A CHOICE NOT AN EMOTION'
My situation concerns who i beleive is a very special girl whom i care for very much and have grown to admire and care for very very much.
The problem is, she claimed that the relationship was 'unbalanced' and has decided to have a break.
i have tried to talk to her and understand the problem and she has said that everything about what i have done and who i am is not the problem, its the 'unbalanced' feel of the relationship.
it seems now that she has stonewalled the issue and no longer chooses to figure out the issues. From my understanding, it seems that she may have some commitment issues that perhaps stem from previous relationships.
All this from a shrink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

as for me, i have grown to care about her very much, unlike previous relationships where i have gone for the butterflies and associated feelings of love.

i know i cant force her to do anything but do a fight for it or give up.

my longwinded question from you peeps concerns the statement above.

Tell me about your opinions please.

Thanks Peeps.

08-01-2011, 11:16am

Why does she feel it is 'unbalanced'? And why not go to our intro thread and tell us a bit more about yourself and your bike, we like to meet new members!

**Giraffe** · 08-01-2011, 11:19am

My apologies.
ive been around for ages but forgot my password and login. thought it easier to make a new one.
Mk, im off to introduce myself.

Laters.

**Ward P** · (This post was last modified: 08-01-2011, 11:22am by Ward P.)

(08-01-2011, 11:11am)Giraffe Wrote: So, just before you read to far this is a little deep and meaningful so if your not interested, pull out now, EJECT! EJECT!

back to the point.

Statement: ' LOVE IS A CHOICE NOT AN EMOTION'
My situation concerns who i beleive is a very special girl whom i care for very much and have grown to admire and care for very very much.
The problem is, she claimed that the relationship was 'unbalanced' and has decided to have a break.
i have tried to talk to her and understand the problem and she has said that everything about what i have done and who i am is not the problem, its the 'unbalanced' feel of the relationship.
it seems now that she has stonewalled the issue and no longer chooses to figure out the issues. From my understanding, it seems that she may have some commitment issues that perhaps stem from previous relationships.
All this from a shrink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

as for me, i have grown to care about her very much, unlike previous relationships where i have gone for the butterflies and associated feelings of love.

i know i cant force her to do anything but do a fight for it or give up.

my longwinded question from you peeps concerns the statement above.

Tell me about your opinions please.

Thanks Peeps.

Life is too short . . . . there are too many roads, and most are best enjoyed one up! (unless she's willing to putup, shutup, and hang on for the ride of her life) - maybe I should have EJECTED :)

**Giraffe** · 08-01-2011, 11:38am

Hi Heidi. Im unsure where she gets the unbalanced feel from, i beleive she described it as me caring more than her (regardng the relationship).

Ward, i totally understand what you mean, but she makes me want to ride two up.

08-01-2011, 12:09pm

I hate to say this to you mate, but when it works it works. If she felt the same way, she would make it work. If she was willing to discuss it, then that would be one thing because it would mean it was something she felt strongly about and wanted to work on, but she doesn't. She is trying to let you down gently because she likes you and she is using this as an excuse. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't let anything stop her.

I'm sorry, that isn't what you want to hear.

**PostmanPete** · 08-01-2011, 12:19pm

Ditto to Heidi's comments. You can't MAKE someone like you!

There are plenty more roads to ride and find the 1 for you!!

**Troppo** · 08-01-2011, 01:33pm

Love advice on a Busa forum?

classic....

**DAVE01** · 08-01-2011, 03:38pm

maybe some advice here

http://www.oprah.com/relationships.html

**Giraffe** · 08-01-2011, 04:11pm

Love advice on a Busa forum?

classic....

you were forewarned Very Happy

truth is the truth. cant help that.[/quote]

08-01-2011, 05:26pm

(08-01-2011, 01:33pm)Troppo Wrote: Love advice on a Busa forum?

classic....

Gotta do somethin' ..

No bugger wants to go Biker

..

I had to go out today with a "foreign" club. Lol3

Had a couple of busa club members along, so all was good ..

09-01-2011, 06:09am

you can take the horse to the water but making him drink is another ball game,love is a very expensive commodity and some people don't have enough to invest in it.You're lucky that she has the decency of advising you that you are on a different level of what one wants from each other and not use you like a tampon mate,chin up and move on and maybe keep her as a friend!!!!welcome!!!

ROD · 09-01-2011, 11:06am

I think this is a job for Dr Phill

or i have a unwanted wife if you want to take off my hands Very Happy

09-01-2011, 12:17pm

maybe we need a Dr ruth thread , to help members through the harsh emotional waters ,

live is hard enough with out haveing your heart stomped on by a woman , but be happy you have your health and a motorcycle , i went through something very simillar yrs back and i was glad i had motorcycling to help me survive

my cure for your broken heart is lots and lots of cheap 1 night stands with a suzuki hayabusa followed by lots of riding of great roads followed by good food frends and a few drinks do this repeatedly till feeling better

**BabyBusa** · 09-01-2011, 05:14pm

To quote an old phrase:

If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was.

Good luck. I hope the outcome is what you want. Smitten

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