Put The Romance Back

[FastPhil]

Laser Eye Surgery, I use to wear glasses before and now I dont. Got it done for 900$ in India - costed me equal to my pair of glasses which I made here.

How was that experience Bill, how long were you out of action? Was the experience a good one?

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I just got my LASIK done last year in Oct.

Hey can someone please tell me what 'LASIK' is?

Anyway, another idea is to go to a secluded place where there is only the two of you....not external distractions, no phones, no TV etc. There are also couples only resorts (not a swingers club, before someone says it.....Bazman ).

Thanks baby, yes all the modern distractions are.....distracting, it would be interesting getting used to truly being alone together.

[Bill Gaheer]

The Lasik operation lasted for about 2 minutes, preparation before that were -

1) Eye check up by a highly qualified eye surgeon (mine had more then 100000 operations and all were success)
2) There were 3 different checkups and every time they check your Cornea thickness - (very important for a good Lasik) if there is any problems with thickness doc will refuse the exam.
3) every checkup they note your eye site and its important that you provide accurate details - (is 3 better then 4) etc etc......
4) 3 check ups are done in less then 2 days. if you go today - your first check up will be done and operation will be scheduled for (say tomm) - then tomm around 10.00 AM second checkup and then one before the operation.
5) there is a 5 minutes preparation time for the operation. they put some eye drop which act as a local Anastasia - you dont feel any pain or any thing in your eyes after this.
6) during operation - its one of the most advance machines in which they feed your eye site (numbers) which they have picked on 3 occasions in last 24 hours or so.
7) they put you on operation table and wrap open your eyes with the help of medical bandages (f*** they have exact type function of bandages for this job) - one eye is worked at a time.
8) doctor will put some more eye drop and then he has a round cutter the size of cornea and he will press the ring on the cornea and yes he will cut the cornea and it will be only held by a single joint. (probably the worst mental experience one can every have because there is no pain of any kind but you can see and brain reacts to someone just pressing a ring with thumb..... our brain wants to protect the eyes and you will react and doc will say dont react all is good......)
9) once the cornea is off then the grinding of eye balls is done by machine and you dont see any thing but just blur light
10) after the grinding the cornea is back in place and just like you put window tint and use a squeeze to pull any air out of the tint screen - a small squeeze is used to remove any air bubbles in the eye and its done.
11) second eye is more difficult mentally then the first one (its opposite to normal operations where we are more relaxed mid procedure) our brain wont let us be comfortable. and you will move and shake more in the second eye then first.
12) Both eyes take any time between 2 to 3. minutes and you are done.....
13) you are suppose to were normal sun glasses after then and not open your eyes for alteast 1 1/2 hours and then you can open your eyes (I was driving in India within first hour - NOT recommended to any one)
14) next morning when you get up and try to find the glasses to see wall clock - guess what you dont need it...life is so f*&^ing clear and now you have different problem....but a good one.
15) you will have to put regular medication for next 2 months and all is good.
16) you mind will not accept that you can see without the glasses (I am still struggling now also but slowly it improves - you can see it all the time but your mind will confuse you)
17) I never use to close my eyes during mild spray of soap or toothpaste etc because I use to wear glasses since age 10 so your mind gets use to it - now you dont have glasses and you think you do and end up with soap in your eyes ...
18) Sun glare - I never had it because all the time I use to have the photocromatic glasses with anti glare all my life so I dont know what direct sunlight means for last 37 years.....
19) for Shortsightedness, one thing you will feel different is that every thing will look bigger then usual - actually with your glasses you see things smaller then usual and now you have normal eye site.
20) every day when I wake up and see time or dont need to worry about my glasses when I go to beach and yes now I can buy real snug fitting helmets which wont destroy my glasses.

Life has been good after Lasik, highly recommended for anyone who is qualified for a lasik, I went about doing my regular work within hours of operation, recommendation is to be away from computers for atleast 3 days.


Lasik is approved by defence forces, or any profession when 20/20 sight is needed. Mine is better then 20/20....

[FastPhil]

The Lasik operation lasted for about 2 minutes, preparation before that were -

1) Eye check up by a highly qualified eye surgeon (mine had more then 100000 operations and all were success)
2) There were 3 different checkups and every time they check your Cornea thickness - (very important for a good Lasik) if there is any problems with thickness doc will refuse the exam.
3) every checkup they note your eye site and its important that you provide accurate details - (is 3 better then 4) etc etc......
4) 3 check ups are done in less then 2 days. if you go today - your first check up will be done and operation will be scheduled for (say tomm) - then tomm around 10.00 AM second checkup and then one before the operation.
5) there is a 5 minutes preparation time for the operation. they put some eye drop which act as a local Anastasia - you dont feel any pain or any thing in your eyes after this.
6) during operation - its one of the most advance machines in which they feed your eye site (numbers) which they have picked on 3 occasions in last 24 hours or so.
7) they put you on operation table and wrap open your eyes with the help of medical bandages (f*** they have exact type function of bandages for this job) - one eye is worked at a time.
8) doctor will put some more eye drop and then he has a round cutter the size of cornea and he will press the ring on the cornea and yes he will cut the cornea and it will be only held by a single joint. (probably the worst mental experience one can every have because there is no pain of any kind but you can see and brain reacts to someone just pressing a ring with thumb..... our brain wants to protect the eyes and you will react and doc will say dont react all is good......)
9) once the cornea is off then the grinding of eye balls is done by machine and you dont see any thing but just blur light
10) after the grinding the cornea is back in place and just like you put window tint and use a squeeze to pull any air out of the tint screen - a small squeeze is used to remove any air bubbles in the eye and its done.
11) second eye is more difficult mentally then the first one (its opposite to normal operations where we are more relaxed mid procedure) our brain wont let us be comfortable. and you will move and shake more in the second eye then first.
12) Both eyes take any time between 2 to 3. minutes and you are done.....
13) you are suppose to were normal sun glasses after then and not open your eyes for alteast 1 1/2 hours and then you can open your eyes (I was driving in India within first hour - NOT recommended to any one)
14) next morning when you get up and try to find the glasses to see wall clock - guess what you dont need it...life is so f*&^ing clear and now you have different problem....but a good one.
15) you will have to put regular medication for next 2 months and all is good.
16) you mind will not accept that you can see without the glasses (I am still struggling now also but slowly it improves - you can see it all the time but your mind will confuse you)
17) I never use to close my eyes during mild spray of soap or toothpaste etc because I use to wear glasses since age 10 so your mind gets use to it - now you dont have glasses and you think you do and end up with soap in your eyes ...
18) Sun glare - I never had it because all the time I use to have the photocromatic glasses with anti glare all my life so I dont know what direct sunlight means for last 37 years.....
19) for Shortsightedness, one thing you will feel different is that every thing will look bigger then usual - actually with your glasses you see things smaller then usual and now you have normal eye site.
20) every day when I wake up and see time or dont need to worry about my glasses when I go to beach and yes now I can buy real snug fitting helmets which wont destroy my glasses.

Life has been good after Lasik, highly recommended for anyone who is qualified for a lasik, I went about doing my regular work within hours of operation, recommendation is to be away from computers for atleast 3 days.


Lasik is approved by defence forces, or any profession when 20/20 sight is needed. Mine is better then 20/20....

Great info, thanks Bill

[cheeky]

its easier to walk away than to make it work.many people take the easy option.

talking to one another and taking interest in each others daily life can help alot.we tend too take it for granted what each other does during the day.
hubs and i found a hobby that we can do together.we ride our bikes and go most weekends say too a pub for lunch.we talk together alot more

thing is your in that inbetween stage..were kids are out on their own and grandkids arnt on the scene now and your prolly thinking is this all there is too our relationship.youve focused the last 20 odd years on the kids and not yourselves and now its "yourtime".
reevaulate your dreams together even go see a counsellor.they often can give you the tools to help boost your relationship.



plastis surgery is a great idea if your unhappy about your looks.but it wont change the inner you.it may give more confidence but the essential person is still there.i had a tummy tuck years ago because of my baby weighed 11 pounds and yeah you can imagine after a ceasare ect i was a mess.i thinl plastic surgery is great.frig ageing gracefully but not joceline wilderstein type thats overboard

[Bill Gaheer]

its easier to walk away than to make it work.many people take the easy option.

talking to one another and taking interest in each others daily life can help alot.we tend too take it for granted what each other does during the day.
hubs and i found a hobby that we can do together.we ride our bikes and go most weekends say too a pub for lunch.we talk together alot more

thing is your in that inbetween stage..were kids are out on their own and grandkids arnt on the scene now and your prolly thinking is this all there is too our relationship.youve focused the last 20 odd years on the kids and not yourselves and now its "yourtime".
reevaulate your dreams together even go see a counsellor.they often can give you the tools to help boost your relationship.



plastis surgery is a great idea if your unhappy about your looks.but it wont change the inner you.it may give more confidence but the essential person is still there.i had a tummy tuck years ago because of my baby weighed 11 pounds and yeah you can imagine after a ceasare ect i was a mess.i thinl plastic surgery is great.frig ageing gracefully but not joceline wilderstein type thats overboard

+1

The only problem with our relationship is that we are OPPOSITE - there is NOTHING of a common interest and yet we are together for 16+ years and still counting.....

[FastPhil]

its easier to walk away than to make it work.many people take the easy option.

talking to one another and taking interest in each others daily life can help alot.we tend too take it for granted what each other does during the day.
hubs and i found a hobby that we can do together.we ride our bikes and go most weekends say too a pub for lunch.we talk together alot more

thing is your in that inbetween stage..were kids are out on their own and grandkids arnt on the scene now and your prolly thinking is this all there is too our relationship.youve focused the last 20 odd years on the kids and not yourselves and now its "yourtime".
reevaulate your dreams together even go see a counsellor.they often can give you the tools to help boost your relationship.



plastis surgery is a great idea if your unhappy about your looks.but it wont change the inner you.it may give more confidence but the essential person is still there.i had a tummy tuck years ago because of my baby weighed 11 pounds and yeah you can imagine after a ceasare ect i was a mess.i thinl plastic surgery is great.frig ageing gracefully but not joceline wilderstein type thats overboard

+1

The only problem with our relationship is that we are OPPOSITE - there is NOTHING of a common interest and yet we are together for 16+ years and still counting.....

Good on you Bill, thats great!

[Missy_Moo]

Well I just ran around the house & put post it notes around it odd spots he tends to go.
a) cos he now works away for the week (plus we're not always home together on weekends cos of my roster)
b) others had things that are happening or have happened, to get the ball rolling and remind him when he's ready to remember that bit of info.
c) we both do 12hr shifts now, (ha, he's finally getting a taste of my length of day) but there are 2 differences, he gets A+ meals cooked for him (other than by me), room cleaning, gym, pool, austar...... & I get me, myself cleaning/cooking/washing... Sometimes I think it would be nice to swap.

This new routine will take a bit of getting used to, co-ordinating between us & my silly rosters (his are stable, mine are a riot! lol). But that's what life is all about I guess. I'll think of more things as it goes.

[FastPhil]

Well I just ran around the house & put post it notes around it odd spots he tends to go.
a) cos he now works away for the week (plus we're not always home together on weekends cos of my roster)
b) others had things that are happening or have happened, to get the ball rolling and remind him when he's ready to remember that bit of info.
c) we both do 12hr shifts now, (ha, he's finally getting a taste of my length of day) but there are 2 differences, he gets A+ meals cooked for him (other than by me), room cleaning, gym, pool, austar...... & I get me, myself cleaning/cooking/washing... Sometimes I think it would be nice to swap.

This new routine will take a bit of getting used to, co-ordinating between us & my silly rosters (his are stable, mine are a riot! lol). But that's what life is all about I guess. I'll think of more things as it goes.

This sounds rough on you both. Make sure you get some time together every now an then. Maybe meet up somewhere in between when he is on his return journey.

[Missy_Moo]

Its less than 3 hrs away - and no fun towns to get side tracked at.
lol but cos he's away, I can sneak some things to be done to his busa. lol (nothing that he hasn't wished for)

there's always a perk!

[cheeky]

good one bill.... nothing wrong with opposites attracting.
hubs and i 25 years,and yes we are brought up both simular family ideas ect..plus being next farm neibours helped..kinda old fashioned ideals.

i just hope phil can just talk with the missus and find the spark to reignite the next 30 odd years...

the grass on the other side of the fence IS NOT greener its just a mucky brown colour....

i think phil and wife are awesome because they are now the unusaual side of the fence.'.long term' anything past 7 years is amazing.
our son once said wow mum and dad..you guys are special...no one has been married that long...thats a sweet message as well as sad for all thoes children growing up in divorce situations which are now the norm.

when i was at school there was one girl that her parents were divorced.and that was it...

25 odd years later its upturned.

the moral too this story.....ummmmmmm ill get back too ya

[FastPhil]

good one bill.... nothing wrong with opposites attracting.
hubs and i 25 years,and yes we are brought up both simular family ideas ect..plus being next farm neibours helped..kinda old fashioned ideals.

i just hope phil can just talk with the missus and find the spark to reignite the next 30 odd years...

the grass on the other side of the fence IS NOT greener its just a mucky brown colour....

i think phil and wife are awesome because they are now the unusaual side of the fence.'.long term' anything past 7 years is amazing.
our son once said wow mum and dad..you guys are special...no one has been married that long...thats a sweet message as well as sad for all thoes children growing up in divorce situations which are now the norm.

when i was at school there was one girl that her parents were divorced.and that was it...

25 odd years later its upturned.

the moral too this story.....ummmmmmm ill get back too ya

Cheeky, I think the moral is unselfishness and good old give and take.

[cheeky]

phil you are very right.
it is give and take and total unselfishness..too a tee.

its hard at times but soo oh worth it...in the long run

[FastPhil]

phil you are very right.
it is give and take and total unselfishness..too a tee.

its hard at times but soo oh worth it...in the long run

and you know every relationship goes through rough patches, it's natural. When you come through them, work things through, I believe the relationship is stronger.

[BikerBoy]

anything past 7 years is amazing.
our son once said wow mum and dad..you guys are special...no one has been married that long...

My grandparents who recently passed away last year celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary and were still as happy together as the day they met.

As for me I've only been married for 3.5 years but my wife and I have been together for nearly 16 years now with barely an argument between us the entire time. I'm only 34 and that's already nearly half my life spent together. In these day's that is certainly rare.

[cheeky]

we celebrated 20 years married and 25 together this year .plus......we grew up next dor too one another.(neighbouring farms)
we actually shared the same cot ..hubs says we still do.

yea its kinda rare knowing one person all their lives...but very cool too in a way..our fams go way back....

(we also have one set of friend with a simular story..poor buggers the hubs is undergoing chemo for bowel cancer at mo...)


bikeboy your grandparents are awesome that they celebrated 70 years together....

i know of 60 years like my inlaws...but 70 thats amazing!!1 often one dies well before that

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p,s hubs and i been together since i was 15.