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29-05-2008, 09:16pm
I have been dealing with this shit for the last 12 years. I have 3 sons now 21, 15 and 13 years old so they were fairly young when we split. My ex is a bitch but she probably say's something similar about me, people change when they separate.
I first took her to court applying for full custody 2 years after we split, my application was based on almost criminal neglect as a result of her coke habit. One week before court she enrolled for rehab classes and the judge ruled in her favour commenting good on you for recognising your problem and doing something about it. Not a f*&^ing word about leaving the kids alone for days on end.
I took her to court again 1 year later when she all of a sudden decided that she would up and move the kids to QLD as they all needed a change. I won this case, the court ruled that she could move the kids anywhere she liked as long as they continued to attend their current Sydney school every day. A very clever ruling by the judge. My case was that as a regular custodial parent it was benificial to the boys to see me every second weekend and to continue in their current school where they had established friends and played in sporting teams.
The family court will always rule on what is best for the kids, If you are a stable parent who regularly sees the kids and is a good role model for them then that is considered paramount to their welfare by the court. You having access to your son one day a fortnight will not be accepted by the court, they will decide on a method of continuing your access at its current level.
Having said that they may give you access in a way or method that does not suit your lifestyle. Taking her to court is a last resort as it will cost you thousands (I have spent over $17,000 so far on 2 cases).
Go to the family court, talk to a counselor and organise mediation. Tell her that if she does not attend mediation then court is the only option and that you will fight her with every cent that you can beg borrow or steal. If necessary quit your job and get legal aid to fight her.
You may be suprised at the result the above will achieve. If nothing else it will show her that you will not be pushed around when it comes to your kids.
There are several organisation out there mate if you need advice or are feeling low, DADS etc. They helped me 12 years ago when I felt like giving up and blowing my brains out after my access problems.
Good luck mate. Just remember that it will get better and your kids will know the effort you put in to remain their dad and a constructive part of their lives
If I can help further call me on 0400 697 254.[/i]
I first took her to court applying for full custody 2 years after we split, my application was based on almost criminal neglect as a result of her coke habit. One week before court she enrolled for rehab classes and the judge ruled in her favour commenting good on you for recognising your problem and doing something about it. Not a f*&^ing word about leaving the kids alone for days on end.
I took her to court again 1 year later when she all of a sudden decided that she would up and move the kids to QLD as they all needed a change. I won this case, the court ruled that she could move the kids anywhere she liked as long as they continued to attend their current Sydney school every day. A very clever ruling by the judge. My case was that as a regular custodial parent it was benificial to the boys to see me every second weekend and to continue in their current school where they had established friends and played in sporting teams.
The family court will always rule on what is best for the kids, If you are a stable parent who regularly sees the kids and is a good role model for them then that is considered paramount to their welfare by the court. You having access to your son one day a fortnight will not be accepted by the court, they will decide on a method of continuing your access at its current level.
Having said that they may give you access in a way or method that does not suit your lifestyle. Taking her to court is a last resort as it will cost you thousands (I have spent over $17,000 so far on 2 cases).
Go to the family court, talk to a counselor and organise mediation. Tell her that if she does not attend mediation then court is the only option and that you will fight her with every cent that you can beg borrow or steal. If necessary quit your job and get legal aid to fight her.
You may be suprised at the result the above will achieve. If nothing else it will show her that you will not be pushed around when it comes to your kids.
There are several organisation out there mate if you need advice or are feeling low, DADS etc. They helped me 12 years ago when I felt like giving up and blowing my brains out after my access problems.
Good luck mate. Just remember that it will get better and your kids will know the effort you put in to remain their dad and a constructive part of their lives
If I can help further call me on 0400 697 254.[/i]